The Big Details

Ever since the magical engagement on Thanksgiving day, it seems that every conversation with any of our friends begins with the same question, and ultimately the same response.  No, we have not chosen a date yet.  We have, however, narrowed it down considerably.  We would like to have a year to plan our wedding so that we are not rushed and do not look over important details in the planning process.  We would not like to be engaged for much longer than a year because we’ve been dating for over 5 years now and before our conversations opened with “Have you picked a date?” they began with, “Will you all just hurry up and get married?”  I hope that we can avoid sliding back to that.  We have, in fact, narrowed our choices down to 5 dates to choose from, each with their own merits.  We have discovered in this process that Caitlan’s decidophobia and my commitmentphobia make for very long staring matches in our apartments.  That is why we have decided to leave the choice to you!  That’s right, you, the faithful blog reader, our wedding guests.  Please carefully consider the date that would work best for  you, vote for it, and let us know why in the comments.  It would make life here much easier as Caitlan and I sit in silence for hours.  And now, the dates:

December 12, 2009: This seems to be the earliest reasonable date.  It gives us plenty of time to prepare for the wedding and is not situated so close to Christmas that we would interfere with our guest’s plans with family.  It should not be forgotten that on this date in 1787 Pennsylvania became the second state to ratify the Constitution of the United States of America.

December 31, 2009: A New Year’s Eve Wedding!  The wedding would be on a Thursday at 7:00 P.M. and our guests would be invited to celebrate the coming new year with us at our reception.  Drinks, dancing, and the singing of Auld Lang Syne at midnight.  You know you’ve always wanted to sing Auld Lang Syne at a party, this could be your chance.

January 1, 2010: Start your new year off right with our wedding! Hopefully you wouldn’t have to work and will have recovered fully from the party on the previous night before you witness us give our vows.  To top it all off, our anniversary, 01/1/10, would be a palindrome!

January 2, 2010: This is really if we want to have a wedding around the new year, but wanted to be married on a Saturday. On this date in 1788 Georgia became the fourth state to ratify the Constitution, and they tried to leave the union shortly thereafter so that may not be a good idea.

January 9, 2010: For good measure, if December and New Years are bad times for most people this gets us deep enough into January for most of you to have no good reason not to come. It may be pushing our relationship into the “Will you all ever get married” phase, and that’s dangerous territory.

So there you have it.  In the words of the Great Olmec from Legends of the Hidden Temple: The choice is yours.


  1. Mitchell · January 15, 2009

    This is possibly the nerdiest thing I have ever seen. Keep up the good work guys!


  2. Mamaw · January 15, 2009

    Grandad and I are footloose and fancy free so we shouldn’t have a vote in this. Our 53rd. anniversary was Jan. 5th so that date must have nice staying power. My thought is that it should be before all the out of town guests with children have to get back to wherever they live before the children have to get back to school and the adults have to get back to work. I am chiefly thinking about Lee and Shonda but I am sure they will vote for themselves. I really have no idea whether Roger and Becky will come across the deep blue although they will have plenty of time to plan. Hope you two can get back to kissing, squeezing and talking to each other after this decision is made! Love both of you and I am praying for you as you embark on one of the most important decisions of your life! By the way, we had two months to plan our wedding and Kyle, your mom and dad had three weeks to plan theirs and they were both absolutely awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


  3. Maria · January 15, 2009

    You are both giant dorks, and this is a fabulous idea!!


  4. Elaine Brown · January 15, 2009

    I love the poll idea! It is so unique. This is going to be the coolest wedding ever.



  5. Mike · January 16, 2009

    I still say November 5th would be great so you can remember remember your anniversary.


  6. Samantha (Ellington) Coppersmith · January 16, 2009

    Since I haven’t talked to either of you since like..hmm..2002, hbut I will give my input anyway. My husband and I just celebrated our 5th anniversary on December 11th so I would say December 12th. But, I must say I am excited for you all and props to the not so long engagement thing. I used to work at David’s Bridal, a year is very appropriate. I am now an Esthetician (Skin care) so if I can be of any service, just let me know.


  7. Joan · January 16, 2009

    Mom can’t vote–abstain, but love you both very much!


  8. Kim · January 16, 2009

    My mom and dad were married on New Year’s Eve – so I’m partial to that date. You’ll never forget the date, you’ll always have a party to go to, and we probably won’t have to work – I stress probably 😉

    Love you BIG


  9. Amanda · January 18, 2009

    Okay, so this is definitely one of the quirkiest ways to decide a date dilemma but I find it particularly Caitlan and Kyle-esque! 🙂 My vote would be for Jan. 1st or 2nd. I should most definitely be in town (as should be most of your lovely KY friends) and people typically get off New Year’s Eve/Day, so less stress. Done.

    Love you all. xx


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